Thursday, May 16, 2013

things you cannot change

Why Dealing With Your Disappointment Will Lead To Your Success


Motivation

Disappointment is a huge aspect of life that appears more often than not. Everyone handles disappointment differently, but it is up to the individual on how to react to a situation. When things become uncomfortable, we tend to push them away instead of dealing with them. Use these situations to motivate yourself; learn the lessons this downfall taught and figure out how to better approach things in your life.
You can’t expect anything from anyone because that can be your main source of disappointment. It is important not to allow the disappointment that will happen constantly throughout your life to consume you. Feeling sorry for yourself will only inhibit you from achieving true happiness. Life is too short to dwell on things you cannot change, so instead you should search for opportunities to expand your mind.
“The difference between the strong and weak: the strong don’t use the past to receive pity or to guilt & manipulate; we rise above, silently.”
An unfortunate outcome of experiencing disappointment is that we create more drama around this disheartening event so that we do not have to feel its ramifications. The sooner you deal with the situation at hand, the quicker you can get over it. Do not let it fester inside yourself, learn to let go.
“You must sacrifice the pains of yesterday if you wish to taste the delights of today.”
Life teaches us lessons that can please us or disappoint us, but regardless it will teach us valuable lessons. We need to learn to accept that these things are inevitable no matter how hard we seek to avoid them. Without disappointment and the lessons it offers, how will we ever learn to grow as a person?
The best remedy to deal with disappointment is to acknowledge and work through the emotion it evokes. It is normal to feel upset or angry, but instead of wallowing in self-pity, we need to recognize that this is a part of life and although this will happen time and time again, each time it does, you will only become stronger and more resilient.
“A thousand disappointments in the past cannot equal the power of one positive action right now. Go ahead and go for it.”
This is a lifelong issue that many people have trouble letting go of. But you must rise onwards and upwards; only by rising above your troubles will you see the true meaning. Learning to forgive someone who disappoints you reveals true strength and character. Anyone can remain mad, but it takes a special type of person to be able to truly forgive someone for faulting him or her.
People are much more resilient than they believe. Sure you may become disappointed at different points in your life, but the main thing to remember is that you will survive. Let things unfold the way they are destined to and do not consume yourself with the after effects. LET IT BE. This is all part of life and will help you to develop a robust character.
“The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.”
What may seem like the end of the world to you may seem insignificant to someone else. Try to put your disappointments into prospective and decide if they really are worth stressing over. If you look for ways to be frustrated, you will find them, so stop searching for things to dwell upon, instead just let nature take its course and react accordingly.
What sucks the joy out of our everyday lives is our notion of how life is supposed to be. Perhaps we should stop insisting that our lives be a certain way and instead embrace it the way it is at the present moment. Acceptance is the cure for all disappointment.
“Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy- the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation”