Friday, May 3, 2013

The Unanswered Prayer

Is there such a thing as unanswered prayer? This devotional by Karen Wolff of Christian-Books-for-Women.com suggests that every prayer is indeed answered by God, just not always in the way we expect.  

The Unanswered Prayer

It is truly a spiritually mature person who never considers a prayer unanswered. How do they do that? There is so much in life that just seems to happen, regardless of how much we pray.
Our daughter, a 23 year old, special needs young woman, dreams of so many things in her life. She wants what we all want: happiness in life. But the challenges she faces are larger than any you can imagine. I remember when she was born. At one pound, seven ounces, she arrived three months early. The doctors said she wouldn't see, hear, and probably would have cerebral palsy. But after she was home for about a month we knew the doctors were wrong. Today she hears, (although I know she has selective hearing based on the number of chores she's supposed to be doing), she sees out of one eye, and doesn't have cerebral palsy. But developmentally she is delayed and life is hard for her. 

Unanswered Prayers?

I've prayed for our daughter more than any other person in my life. I've prayed that she would be healed completely. I've prayed that she would receive wisdom and strength and the ability to discern in life situations. It seems like many of those prayers have gone unanswered. But are they really unanswered or is God using our daughter's life to stretch my faith?Everyone has people in their life that God uses to make changes in them. I can honestly say our daughter is that person for me. In fact, some days I feel like he's inventoried me, found every imaginable defective part, and then sends in my daughter to help "bring them out of me." It's that "bringing out" part that causes the trouble.I heard Joyce Meyer, one of my favorite teachers, say that we always pray for God to change our circumstances when God actually uses our circumstances to change us. I must say that yes, I've been changed. God has used our daughter's situation to develop patience, (at least most days), trust, and faith that he's got a plan no matter how things look. Okay, so I've asked God if I can give him input about how the plan should turn out. And yes, I've asked him to send a timetable just so we're all on the same page. I'm pretty sure I saw God rolling his eyes about that last one.There is a song by Mercy Me called, "Bring the Rain." When I first heard that song I couldn't even imagine how much spiritual maturity it would take for someone to sing:
    Bring me joy, bring me peace
    Bring the chance to be free.
    Bring me anything that brings You glory.
    And I know there'll be days
    When this life brings me pain,
    But if that's what it takes to praise You
    Jesus, bring the rain.
I don't know many people who are at that place in their journey. As I see my faith stretched daily, I hope I can eventually come to the place where I can say, "God, I want what you want. If what I want isn't what you want, then change my mind."

Don't Give It Up



Truth.  

He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:25-33

New International Version (NIV)
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.


This also means that it is the job of men to fight for healing, even if innocent in a conflict.  It is the job of the man to be the peacemaker and to never let the couple go to bed angry.