by Chiradeep
e-Counseling
When we look around we find many broken relationships in the world today. I feel burdened for the broken relationships. My heart aches when I see a home is torn wide apart and shattered. I feel so sad to see a child getting parted and divided physically, mentally & spiritually between two separated or divorced parents.
I know there are many among us who are broken yet want to be united back again with their loved ones. I know there are many husbands who want their wives to come back to their arms. I know there are many wives who want to reconcile with their husbands. And I also know that it’s never too late to mend a broken relationship. It’s never impossible to get back and reconcile. It’s never shameful to get back to your loved one.
But the biggest difficulty that stands as mountain before us is, HOW TO RECONCILE? HOW TO REBUILD? HOW TO START?
I have 7 simple yet important factors that will help us to reconcile & rebuild a broken relationship which I have mentioned as under:
I know there are many among us who are broken yet want to be united back again with their loved ones. I know there are many husbands who want their wives to come back to their arms. I know there are many wives who want to reconcile with their husbands. And I also know that it’s never too late to mend a broken relationship. It’s never impossible to get back and reconcile. It’s never shameful to get back to your loved one.
But the biggest difficulty that stands as mountain before us is, HOW TO RECONCILE? HOW TO REBUILD? HOW TO START?
I have 7 simple yet important factors that will help us to reconcile & rebuild a broken relationship which I have mentioned as under:
Materials Needed:Love, Emotion, Initiative, Understanding, Humility, Forgiving Attitude, Patience & Prayer
1. It’s Our Need
A relationship can be restored only when we have the desire to reconcile and rebuild. Unless we have a longing to come together or unite together we can’t imagine of rebuilding. When we feel that reconciling or rebuilding the relationship with my loved one is our own need then only we will have the desire to take a step forward.
2. Taking the first step
I have seen in life, we always tend to expect the first initiation from the opposite party. I have also has the experience in my own life that if I want to reconcile then I have to take the first step. I can’t expect that somebody will come and give a glass of water when I feel thirsty. I need to express my feelings or ask for a glass of water or get it myself. The process of reconciliation and rebuilding starts when we take the first initiation in response to our own need.
3. Expect Denial
When we are on the verge of rebuilding & reconciliation we should always be ready for denial of our attempts. The other person may not want to rebuild or reconcile initially. So we should not be disappointed with her/his denial, we should be ready to face that accept it in a very positive way.
4. Patience is the Key
We should never lose our patience. We should always remember that “breaking is much easier than rebuilding." We need patience. We need perseverance. We have to keep coming again and again to reconcile. And one day when we succeed we have to start rebuilding slowly.
5. A Humbling experience
It is really not at all easy to come again and again expecting a response to our invitation to reconcile and rebuild the broken relationship. It is a humbling experience. We need to humble ourselves as much as possible in the process of reconciling & rebuilding. When we face denial our ego may challenge us to take a step back and stop thinking of bending down again. But we need to remember that rebuilding is our need and we have to bend down again and again to reconcile, to recreate and to rebuild.
6. Asking Forgiveness
We may say, ‘I was not wrong.’ But we should remember that we were also part of that act of breaking our relationship. So we need to ask forgiveness from our partner, from our children, from our parents or whoever it may be.
7. Faith in Our Love
The Bible says ‘love never fails.’ It is the truth. When we have true love springing up from our heart nothing can stop us. Love really never fails. So we need to have faith in our love for our beloved. That will win the battle for you.
I have never said above that these are 7 steps to reconcile & rebuild, rather I said that these are 7 important factors involved in the process of reconciling and rebuilding. All these factors have to work together. It’s not that we will finish the no.1 step then try out the 2nd one but all these have to work together and then only we can expect a rebuilt relationship.
Freinds! Let's start our reconciling & rebuilding process with a prayer. May God bless us to cherish a reconciled and rebuilt relationship.
1. It’s Our Need
A relationship can be restored only when we have the desire to reconcile and rebuild. Unless we have a longing to come together or unite together we can’t imagine of rebuilding. When we feel that reconciling or rebuilding the relationship with my loved one is our own need then only we will have the desire to take a step forward.
2. Taking the first step
I have seen in life, we always tend to expect the first initiation from the opposite party. I have also has the experience in my own life that if I want to reconcile then I have to take the first step. I can’t expect that somebody will come and give a glass of water when I feel thirsty. I need to express my feelings or ask for a glass of water or get it myself. The process of reconciliation and rebuilding starts when we take the first initiation in response to our own need.
3. Expect Denial
When we are on the verge of rebuilding & reconciliation we should always be ready for denial of our attempts. The other person may not want to rebuild or reconcile initially. So we should not be disappointed with her/his denial, we should be ready to face that accept it in a very positive way.
4. Patience is the Key
We should never lose our patience. We should always remember that “breaking is much easier than rebuilding." We need patience. We need perseverance. We have to keep coming again and again to reconcile. And one day when we succeed we have to start rebuilding slowly.
5. A Humbling experience
It is really not at all easy to come again and again expecting a response to our invitation to reconcile and rebuild the broken relationship. It is a humbling experience. We need to humble ourselves as much as possible in the process of reconciling & rebuilding. When we face denial our ego may challenge us to take a step back and stop thinking of bending down again. But we need to remember that rebuilding is our need and we have to bend down again and again to reconcile, to recreate and to rebuild.
6. Asking Forgiveness
We may say, ‘I was not wrong.’ But we should remember that we were also part of that act of breaking our relationship. So we need to ask forgiveness from our partner, from our children, from our parents or whoever it may be.
7. Faith in Our Love
The Bible says ‘love never fails.’ It is the truth. When we have true love springing up from our heart nothing can stop us. Love really never fails. So we need to have faith in our love for our beloved. That will win the battle for you.
I have never said above that these are 7 steps to reconcile & rebuild, rather I said that these are 7 important factors involved in the process of reconciling and rebuilding. All these factors have to work together. It’s not that we will finish the no.1 step then try out the 2nd one but all these have to work together and then only we can expect a rebuilt relationship.
Freinds! Let's start our reconciling & rebuilding process with a prayer. May God bless us to cherish a reconciled and rebuilt relationship.
